This article was published in the telegraph wherein the author talks about her dark secrets based on this online world. According to her joining of the dating site was not a mistake but she had an exciting sexual experience through the means of that. According to her when the news broke out about the Ashely Madison Hack she started browsing through the social media very carefully and she saw the fuming comments of the onlookers who showed the shock over the fact that 33 million people had signed up on the extra-marital dating website to cheat on their partners. This issue was of serious interest to the other as she was one of them “I did it on similar website and I got away with it, and it was one of the best experience of my life” she says.
First let me tell you what is the Ashley Madison Hack is all about. According to the details published in the Telegraph about the Ashley Madison Hack, the hacking group of people calling themselves as ‘The Impact Team’ has threatened to reveal the identities of 37.5 million people (users) who were supposedly involved into the extra-marital affair over this dating website called Ashley Madison, read the full details here “Ashely Madison Hack” here.. (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/internet-security/11750432/Adultery-website-Ashley-Madison-hack-threatens-to-expose-37.5m-cheaters.html)
“I was not very happy in the relationship that I had entered around 10 years back, and I regretted my decision of being married to him, I knew it was mistake”, she says “Around seven years back I discovered the online dating site ‘Illicit Encounters’ after reading about it in one of the magazines, I had done what many people do at my age, in the late 40s do, looking out for the thrill back in the life. My husband was lacking the sex drive, and I was longing for the partner”. According to her, she was lacking his attention and she started to look around elsewhere for it, “I constantly searched for an attention out of my married life, even if it was just an admiring look.”
She writes that “I decided to have an affair and looked for the ways to make it happened. I tried every opportunity to have an encounter at work events or nights out with girls, but nothing worked out for me. Then I set up the Illicit Encounters profile while my husband was away and I used one of the images of colorful seashell instead of my photo from my picture library. When matches started coming in, I got highly excited”.
“My first Illicit Encounter was Hugh”. (Name Changed) she writes, “I found him clever and amusing and we deiced to meet up, our first meeting was in a bar, near London’s Kings Cross, Hugh was 50, though he said he is 40 in the chat, but that didn’t matter as he was very handsome, articulate, well educated and well dressed. I was thrilled with the idea of my first encounter, but Hugh reassured me that we won’t do anything that I wasn’t comfortable with”. She further says that “I won’t regret what I did because it showed me what I was missing.”
“Followed by our meeting he took me to his office and we had passionate sex. When I went back home that night and I slept next to my husband but did not feel guilty, but only excitement”, she claimed. After that first encounter she kept going for it again and again with various other men besides Hugh, who according her, were intelligent and successful and who had no intentions of leaving their marriages, it used to start with pre-sex drinks and dinners, which were as good as the sex itself”.
She further states that, “I thought to myself about the multiple relationships I am going into while being married and that me to leave my husband after two years “After two years of using the dating site my moral compass kicked and I thought it is not right and I decided to leave my husband.”
Now she is single and happy, “I am glad that he found another partner very quick, who he is still with, and I am happy for him, but I do not have any plans to going into the relationship again as I am happy dating men who are younger than me and I am enjoying my freedom. It is very important for me to steal the moments from my life that I had lost during those years of marriage. I will never regret what I did since it showed me what I was lacking before I made the leap.”
The reason behind telling this story was to touch this new subject of infidelity, which is spreading across in our society like a fire. The infidelity is nothing but the proportion of demand and supply in a relationship. Cheating is the result of less supply than the demand. It may look weird, but that is the fact of life. Everybody does this but in a discreet manner because nobody has a gut to fight with the society openly. It is evident that the dating websites are mushrooming in a big way, with 37.5 million members on the Ashley Madison website itself tells the story as how many people are looking for extramarital affairs, it’s being highly discreet, we do not know who those 37.5 million people are. Marriage is the bond which keeps the people together and families intact, but the dating websites like Ashley Madison, having 37.5 million members, shakes the base of fidelity ratio and it shows the growing interest towards the infidelity? We may say that country like India may not have that big ratio? But can we guarantee it? What really happens on the social networking sites? If you also have any such story to share please do let us know and we will be very happy to publish the same on our website. Please do leave your honest comments and suggestions on this very sensitive issue.
Edited and Re-written by Rajesh Ghadge