Why do American girls ends chat if they find out the guy on the other end is an Indian

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This is not the hidden fact that most of the Indian guys like to chat with the foreigner females for various reasons. But the issue here is, whether the foreigner girls also like to chat with the Indian guys in the chatroom? The research on the Quora network has revealed that most of the American girls do not like to continue chatting if they find out the guy at another end is an Indian.

According to the news published in the Times of India  on the Valentine’s Day, the new angle of chatroom story had been exposed. Based on the narration the American girls do not like to continue chatting online with Indian men for various reasons. The Quora network has many such indications. Frequent American travelers to India have posted the answer to this question about their perception of an Indian guy. What they think and how they come to know that the guy they are chatting with is an Indian?

[su_expand more_text=”READ MORE” less_text=” ” height=”0″ hide_less=”yes” link_style=”button” link_align=”center”] Melanie Smith, a Passionate traveler to India is one of the American girl who wrote the answer to this question on QUORA. According to her, the issue is really serious. Unlike the western guys the Indian guys are more pile on and they immediately ask very personal questions. She avoided sharing the screen shots of the chat to protect the (not so innocent) guys on the chat but she shared some of the questions they normally ask.

Oh, man. I really want to avoid the truth here. You have a real answer coming. Are you sure you want it? It’s not comfortable for any of us. Please continue to remind yourself of one thing while reading; not everyone falls into the behavior I’m going to address below. The OP wants to know why ignoring happens. We don’t know his behavior, or how many times this has happened.

If any of you care to look at my social media pages you’ll notice it’s primarily Indian guys. All ages. All states. All religions. All educations. All jobs. I have very solid experience in how you behave when an American woman replies via social media (for the record, I know a lot of Indian guys in person, so rest assured I also know all the variables of your IRL personalities).


Let me give a sincere thank you to all the Indian men who have protected me, defended me and literally kicked the ass of guys harassing me. (I don’t condone this, but sometimes it’s all they understand)

According to her, it all starts with

What are you wearing?

Is your husband home?

Do you get along well with your husband?

Are you lying in bed?

When did you lose your virginity?

These are innocent enough questions. But, to most women if the guy is Indian, she stops there. Why? Because if she answers those questions, the next series goes like this;

Do you enjoy the sex?

Can I see a photo of your face with your hair loose?

I have one doubt… is masturbation bad for health?

Can I see one photo of you in jeans?

Rarely will an American woman not block you at this point, it is very offensive to us to be asked these questions.

If we are still allowing messages, next comes;

Can I see your breast? Side view and front view. Cleavage is fine for the first photo. (Keep in mind, no need to have responded to previous sexual type questions. You can change the subject with each reply and they still do this!)

I have been told, “Why can’t you do the sex? You’re white. White women can have abortions.” Do I even need to explain how wrong this is?  I once asked a guy who was continually asking me to “say (bad word for female genitals) to me” why Indian women aren’t asked the same questions. I was told “because they are like the pillar. Goddess. Most respect to them.” As if somehow I’m lesser. Wow. It takes every ounce of love I can muster up to help these naive guys realize the errors in their thinking. Yes, I called them naively. They are clueless about women and western culture.

Guys, they block you because your countrymen have made it known that they think a white girl in jeans and a t-shirt will have “the sex” with anyone. They think you’re a racist pig. Yes, they judge you and it isn’t fair, is it? It sucks to be judged by a few cultural impressions of the worst behaved. It sucks to be on our end, the end that is treated like a worthless person, too.

Next comes Meera Yogi, an American born to Indian parents, feels that the Indian men have really left bad impressions on the women of all races in the past. She is Indian herself but born in America but according to her, she do not speak with the Indian men in the online chat rooms unless they are western born.

She also shares some of her experience over here.

  1. Purposely using slang in English that makes the man come off as uneducated. I can understand if English is not your first language and will not be picky about typos and grammatical errors. However, I’ve noticed that some successful men from India (executives, doctors, lawyers) will type in this fashion and it is a huge turn-off. It is also a red flag. Not a lot of English-speaking people are comfortable communicating with others with such slang, especially if you are aged over 21.
  2. Awkward flirting. It is really hard for Indian men and women to learn how to “date” when our culture has encouraged us to not to for most of our adult lives. It is not nearly as tough for Indian women because, in most cultures, it is always the man pursuing the woman. My advice to all Indian men that are not doing well with online dating, to really look at the type of messages you are sending. Firstly, if a woman does not reply to your initial message, she is simply not interested. If you keep messaging her over and over again, it comes off as really desperate and almost psychotic. Secondly, when you do get a reply to your message, just try to get to know her as if she was just another person you met on the street. I’ve noticed that once Indian men get a response, they get too excited and it scares women off.
  3. Wear deodorant. This is self-explanatory.

The above examples are just the tip of the iceberg and if everyone starts coming ahead this may turn into the mountain of devastation for the name of Indian men at the international level. Please do leave your valuable comments and suggestion on this issue.

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