Kalki Koechlin opened up to media about her being sexually abused at the age of 9
The celebrities have caught up with the fever of being true to their real life while they spend most of the time pretending in reel life. After the recent case of Deepika Padukone revealing to media about suffering from depression now its Kalki Koechin’s turn to tell media about her best kept secrets.
Bollywood actress Kalki Koechlin is known to speak her mind, be it talking about women empowerment or her unconventional film choices. And the very talented actress decided to speak about how she was sexually abused as a child at the age of 9 to Humans of Bombay. Kalki said people shouldn’t feel sorry for her after reading about her sexual abuse, rather parents should remove the taboo around the word ‘sex or private parts’ so that the kids can be saved from potential abuse.
Earlier Deepika had told the media as how she suffered from the depression syndrome “In early 2014, while I was being appreciated for my work, one morning, I woke up feeling different. A day earlier, I had fainted due to exhaustion; it was all downhill from there. I felt a strange emptiness in my stomach. I thought it was stress, so I tried to distract myself by focusing on work, and surrounding myself with people, which helped for a while. But the nagging feeling didn’t go away. My breath was shallow, I suffered from lack of concentration and I broke down often.”
“The reason I spoke out about my sexual abuse is not to get people to feel sorry for me but to give others who have had similar circumstances the confidence to talk about it. I allowed someone to have sex with me at the age of nine, not understanding fully what it meant and my biggest fear after was that my mother would find out. I felt it was my mistake and so I kept it hidden for years. If I had had the confidence or awareness to confide in my parents it would have saved me years of complexes about my own sexuality. It’s important that parents remove the taboo around the word sex or private parts so kids can speak openly and be saved from potential abuse.” Kalki told the media.
Kalki also spoke about her divorcee with Anurag Kashyap. “I believe in being myself every step of the way and not hiding my true self from society, whether that means getting a divorce because me and my husband didn’t want to pretend for other people, or wearing shorts because it’s a hot day or choosing a career which is unstable but creatively satisfying, or admitting to my weaknesses because learning from them has led to my strengths.”
When asked about the true love she said “Well, I just feel love is not up for public display. Love is not the pictures you put up on social media. Love is not a certificate of marriage. Love is not property, children, family or ownership and love is not barter – ‘I’ll give you this, if you give me that.’ Love is giving without expecting in return. It sounds like the ultimate act of self sacrifice right? But the trouble with giving, and I mean happily and limitlessly giving without expecting in return, is that one has to be self sufficient, and full of love for oneself. So, in a way, I believe love is selfish, because only a person who loves themselves fully, can give fully without expecting, without needing, without dependency. I’m not there yet, but I fight to be myself everyday in a world where we are constantly pressurized to be someone else, and that daily fight is my pursuit for love.”
Source: Humans of Bombay